Most of the time. ( like a verbal shrug. ) That's why it's hard. Understanding people is a lot more complex than just asking them questions. All you learn is how they answer questions; what they want you to think about them.
This is why I thought it'd be worth discussing with you.
( not arguing. discussing. she's just—
she's really bad at not arguing. )
But the thing about the stories people construct, on purpose or just...naturally...what you get from those is how people think. You can learn the shape of them from the shape of the things they build. I mean, it isn't fool-proof. And it isn't the only thing, it's just one thing.
( that she's good at it, that she understands, that she can contextualize in a way that makes sense to her and knows how to practically apply when she has the patience and the resources. it's why she writes everything down—
to step back, and look what the shape of it makes. she is, in her peculiar ways, unexpectedly methodical. )
[ A little shrug. It does make sense. It's just...not something she's ever been especially good at. She thinks. Honestly, everyone around her, all her life, has been really just like her - for the most part - some of them Czechs, some of them Irish, some of them English, some of them from central London instead of out in Balham, some of them older and some of them younger and some of them political like her and some of them indifferent - but everyone's story was the same. Or at least one of two variants. The magicians are rotten and we'll put up with it or the magicians are rotten and we won't put up with it. Sometimes, other sorts would come through, tourists and country folk, but she'd filch their things - she wouldn't sit down and learn their stories.
Honestly, the first one who was different, really different, was Bartimaeus. And she'd come away from her conversation with him with her head spinning. So, thinking of him - ]
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Date: 2018-11-24 09:25 am (UTC)( not arguing. discussing. she's just—
she's really bad at not arguing. )
But the thing about the stories people construct, on purpose or just...naturally...what you get from those is how people think. You can learn the shape of them from the shape of the things they build. I mean, it isn't fool-proof. And it isn't the only thing, it's just one thing.
( that she's good at it, that she understands, that she can contextualize in a way that makes sense to her and knows how to practically apply when she has the patience and the resources. it's why she writes everything down—
to step back, and look what the shape of it makes. she is, in her peculiar ways, unexpectedly methodical. )
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Date: 2018-11-24 12:59 pm (UTC)Honestly, the first one who was different, really different, was Bartimaeus. And she'd come away from her conversation with him with her head spinning. So, thinking of him - ]
Guess it helps you change, too.